I am giving a shower for my BIL who is getting married. He does not have any sisters, so I volunteered to give one for our friends and family of his side. It will be a party for the women only. I know the bride is having another shower but, I'm assuming it's for her side. My question is..do I invite the brides mother and bridesmaids? I would think they would need to be there. Thanks!
I would invite both, but at the very least the bride's mother should be invited to all occasions, with the exception of the bachelorette party. Talk to the bride. I had two showers. One for friends and one for both families. It was easier to do two instead of having 60+ people at one shower. My bridesmaids were invited to both, but I said it was optional for them to show up to the family one.
I think that it's proper to invite her mother. However, it's a hardship on the bridesmaids to be invited to multiple showers. Ask your BIL's fiance if she is inviting the bridesmaids to her other shower. Go from there. They should be invited to one, but not both.
Dawn
Yes to the mom, no to the bridesmaids, unless any of them are in your family. If any of them can't make it to the other one, you may want to invite them to yours instead.
Usually both sides are invited to just one shower. If the bride's shower is not a surprise I would ask her.
But to answer your question - it might me nice to invite the bride so your side of the family can get to know her; maybe there's someone that hasn't met her yet, who knows! I don't really think it's necessary to invite the bride's mother and bridesmaids if they're already having a shower for her side.
Good luck!
I think the bride's mother and bridesmaids should be invited =)
I only had one shower and invited everyone from both sides. I think it would be nicer if you just had one and chipped in to the other one as a host, tell the bride you would like to be included as a host.
Yes if you have your side shower do invite the bride , brides maids, mother and if she has any sisters...this is where it gets crazy for me because i am one that thinks if the mothers going the sisters need to go and if they go the grand mothers and aunts I can usally stop at the aunts but grandmothers are a must.
my son is getting married in April there will be 2 showers one for her side one for ours. and I invited the girls mother, grandmother and her attendents. as well as a few friends from work that she asked to include.
It's just to hard to have a shower that is huge when it can be split into to smaller lovely events.
Why don't you ask the bride? If the bride is having another shower, see if her mom and bridesmaids will be invited to that shower? If they are, then you certainly don't have to invite them to yours. However, if the bride would think they would want to come to both, then invite them.
I might invite her mom anyway.
Ask the bride......
