You will be so glad when this is over!
Our son is 14 months old now. At 8.5 months he was getting up 3-6 times a night and refused to go to dad, so it was all me. To say the least I was exhausted!
We put in place a routine that works for us, you can do anything you want. We have dinner at 6, go for a walk at 6:30, bath 7:00. Then I put lotion on him, and get him dressed in his jammies. He has a bowl of rice cereal, we brush his teeth, read a book or two, put him in his bed (he lays down now, but form months would stand and cry for a couple minutes) start his mobile and say good night.
For the first few weeks I would go in after 5 mins, then 10 mins after that, then 20 minutes later, then 30 minutes later. Then we realized going in just riled him up, so we stopped going in. He's doing great now! Sleeps from about 8-6 (or later).
During the night, for the first week, I would get up and give him a bottle of water when he woke up. He immediately started waking up less! He wanted milk, not water and learned mom wouldn't give it to him!
After that, if he cried, we looked at the clock and then waited 5 minutes before going to check on him. He is back to sleep 99% of the time!
In the morning, I don't get up before 7. I work in the evenings, cleaning and catching up on our business, so I rarely get to bed before 11 or 12. He just chills in his bed...
For naptime, we change his diaper, read a couple books, put him in his crib & start the mobile. We implimented the same increments for checking on him during nap time, but if he was still awake after 1 hour, then nap was over. (This is how he let us know he was done with 2 naps, he kept staying awake and through the whole nap.)
I still have friends who let their baby stay up until they fall asleep between 11-1!!! I can't imagine not being able to get anything done in the evening...even if it's just relax and watch tv. I need some time to myself...
The most important thing you can do to keep your baby healthy is give them sleep!
Good luck, you'll be soooo happy!