Daughter Complains of Sickness Frequently

I would talk to the teacher about it. I am a Kindergarten teacher (I also have 3 children - 8, 5, 2) and sometimes these things happen when the teacher is not around - recess lunch other specials - so she may not even be aware of the situation - if the teacher can address the issue with the students it could easily be resolved. But always go to the teacher first :)

I agree with the other responses that talk about addressing the situation head on. I would start with the teacher immediately. And quickly move up the ladder if necessary.

My 4 year old daughter does the same "I have a tummy ache" thing at bedtime. It started with my last pregnancy, and got worse when I had my daughter. My husband and I addressed the situation by giving her a special time and spend extra time with her at some point during the day. I also found she benefits from time away from her older sister.

There was a bully at my son's preschool and he began to do something very similar. He always loved school but suddenly didn't want to go. I sat him down and had a talk and found out there was a bully. I gave him the following instructions: "Tell that boy that you don't like him calling you that, you don't want to talk to him, and walk away. If he follows you, walk right to the teacher and tell her what the boy is doing." That day I went into his school and talked to both teachers and the teachers aid, personally. I also spoke to the school administrator to make sure that everyone was aware of this boy. As it turned out, he was an older boy, school age, who was only in their class in the afternoon. After that they kept the school age kids separate from the preschool and the problem was solved. Address this right away, make sure your daughter knows she should never be afraid or embarrassed by anyone and that she should always tell you. If you can make her feel safe and comfortable she'll always come to you and she'll love school again.
Good luck, blessings.

It sounds to me that your daughter has told you what's causing her sickness. She's being bullied. This has become a common place problem at school, and I won't go in to my opinion on why. However, I would suggest that you contact her teacher and make an appointment to discuss this issue before it gets out of hand. The fact that you've told her she's special and that you're proud of her is wonderful, but it doesn't solve her problem at school.

This type of situation needs to be dealt with quickly and appropriately by the authorities in charge. On the slight chance that talking with the teacher doesn't help, be ready to contact the principal if needed. Many schools today have programs in place for dealing with bully situations. If your school doesn't have one in place, it should adopt one as soon as you talk with those in charge and they find out they have a problem.

I concur with others that this sounds like she is being bullied and therefore inducing her upset tummy and headaches. I know I get stress headaches and a queasy tummy when I have to deal with mean or irritating people and your little one is only 6! It's wonderful that you remind her how special she is and you are proud of her. Have you considered giving her some things to say in response to "friends" behaving inappropriately. You might even role play with her. Let Dad be the "mean boy" and you be her and forcefully tell Dad to stop calling you names, get away from me, or I'm getting the teacher. You may not use ugly words on me. Then let her try it. It may sound a little silly, but this has worked tremendously with my eldest, when nothing else works.
If she is not standing up for herself when someone is blatantly doing her harm, this could have terrible repercusions on her self esteem later in life.
Good luck. I hope you find something that works for your daughter.

my mother used to wake up and get sick before school when she was little and they did all kind of test it was just her nerves. she gets nervous easy and that is how it showed it self

Hey J., my name is A. and I live in Hilliard, oh I have 4 children and it's not uncommon for most kids to do that. I would ask your daughter the name of the boys so you can talk to her teacher or the principal. Most schools don't tolerate kids being mean, but you did a really good think letteing her know that she is special! I'd also let her know that she will have other kids being mean all through school and that what they say to her is never true they are just mean kids and she should ignore them or tell the teacher. Hope this helps and good luck!

Hi J.,
My daughter who is 5 and in kindergarten as well started doing the same thing always complaining of a tummy ache and she also complained of boys picking on her and pushing her. I went straight to the teacher with that matter.However, the tummy issue was more complicated, well I tried over the counter products periodically nothing seemed to help. I took dairy and greasy foods out of her diet, we went total organic, nothing helped. So then I started to think that it was just for attention, or because "she didnt want to go to school" well this went on for a couple of months. I called the doctor and he told me to do everything I had already been doing, and when I told him that it was not working he told me to get her some Zantac 75. That did nothing. I had had enough so I scheduled an Upper GI and Lower bowl follow thru and come to find out she has a very severe case of Acid Reflux(which can be brought on by nerves, hince the bully boys) she is now on Prevacid and she is also Lactose intolerant. So I would tell her that you are going to take her to the doctor and do it and if it persists then continue trying to find out what it is until you do because she very well may be in pain and I know you dont want that just as I didnt. I wish you the best.

I would suggest problem solving with your daughter. It is not fair that those boys are being mean to her, and letting her know that she can stand up for herself could help her. Also, making sure the teacher is aware of the situation. The boys may not be saying things in front of the teacher and therefore she does not know there is a problem. I would agree it is school related, and you don't want your daughter not liking school at such a young age. Best of Luck!