Do Your Children Get Along . . .

Updated on March 09, 2012
T.V. asks from West Orange, NJ
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. . . all the time, some of the time or never?

I would say my kids get along most of the time, probably 90%. About an hour ago my son (3) had his sister (6) in a death grip over a toy. I broke it up, now their rubbing each other's toes, not the feet, just the toes. They have their disagreements, but I think they enjoy each other's company for the most part.

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Yes, I love to watch them get along. They fight with each other, but Lord help the fool who tries to hurt one of them. It's kind of like, I can fight with him/her but you can't! I hope they remain close. I'm not close with my brother at all, but I think that's because we have a pretty large age gap....among other things.

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G.M.

answers from Phoenix on

For the most part my kids get along. They are 5 years apart. Both boys. They do just about every day, have their moments of playing tug a war with a toy. And it always seems to be over the CAT TOYS!!! Ha ha ha ha!!!

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I only have 1 and she gets along with herself just fine!!!!!

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J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

When they are not around each other they get along just fine. :)

Really my kids fought like cats and dogs until they realized an alliance was better. My older two have been great friends, have each other's back, since they were teens. I am really hoping the younger two follow suit.

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C.M.

answers from Johnson City on

Oh boy tonight is the wrong time to ask me this question! They have been bickering since my 6 yr old got home from school. Nothing major, just picking at each other constantly. Mama must need a break cuz it's really getting on my nerves tonite.

But, yeah, when they do get along they can be so sweet to each other. Just melts your heart. My 4 yr old is forever hurting himself and his sister can be so good with him. She'll tell him "It's ok buddy, Sissy is here. I'll make it all better."

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M.D.

answers from Washington DC on

Absolutely :).

Mine can fight like there's no tomorrow, but let someone else even look at them sideways and it's on. Just the way it should be.

Best friends that no one else can mess with.

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V.W.

answers from Jacksonville on

Yep. Ours are 3 years apart also, except our son is the older and our daughter is the younger. They are fantastic friends. Sure they argue and bicker sometimes, and annoy each other. That is part of being siblings. But they really do enjoy each other's company too. And do all sorts of things together.
They roller-blade together. They swim together. They play video games together (like downloading DS games). They even will watch each other play video games (PS3, single player games) and enjoy it. They play outside together. They will one-step spar together (martial artists, both of them). They share old stuff (son just got a new "penny board" skate board, and gave his old "plain" one to his sister... so now they both skateboard around the neighborhood together). They even decide on what TV shows to watch together.
I think when my son finally grows up, he is going to have a hard time moving out. He really enjoys sharing things with his sister. They have a lot of memories together and are very close.

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M.G.

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My children are 8 and 5. My daughter is the oldest and is very much into spending time with her little brother. They fight daily and argue often, as much as a nonverbal 5 year old can argue. Hehe They are honestly best friends and love being together. I know that my daughter is her brother's protector and that's fantastic in my book. She's always trying to tell adults after they honk or get out of their cars to be patient when he's getting on the bus because he has autism and is only in preschool!

I hope they remain friends for life.

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T.V.

answers from San Francisco on

Toe fetishes.....Hummmmm

No children, young or old get along all them time....if your's do 90% of the time, the worst is yet to come.

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

My kids got along most of the time until my oldest hit puberty, around 5th/6th grade.
They shared rooms and were each others' best buddies before then.
Once they started growing up things changed, hormones kicked in :(
It's sad, though I find myself really cherishing the moments they DO get along now, like when we are traveling, or when I need one of the older ones to drive or pick up a younger one from somewhere. I see how they still love each other and look out for each other. Those moments are sweet :)

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M.D.

answers from Dallas on

when they want too... I have a 16, 14 and 5 year old.. Some days I feel I yell all the time, other times, I feel I'm watching the best movie ever! I'm pretty close with my sisters, but growing up, we had our fights. I think fighting sometimes brings some strong bonds. I know my kids may fight with each other, but they have each others back too, don't have to worry about someone ever hurting one, because the other one will be right there.

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K.C.

answers from Philadelphia on

My kids (14, 11 and 9) certainly have their moments. It was a lot worse when they were much younger (especially the two younger ones, both girls). Things seem to have calmed down in the last couple of years between them and now most of the "fighting" is between ME and the teen/pre-teen/tweens. They are quickly turning my hair grey!

But compared to what my sister and I put my poor mom through when WE were kids, MY kids are saints! My sister and I fought constantly, up until I graduated HS and left home for college, and even now, when mom and dad visit, we can get a bit snippy with each other. Really strange since we live 15 minutes from each other, talk almost everyday, see each other several times a week and are the best of friends as adults. But when we were kids? We HATED each other and would go out of our way to make each other's lives difficult. Yes, I HAVE apologized to my mother for turning HER hair grey.

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R.B.

answers from La Crosse on

my 3 yr old ( daughter) and 4 yr old ( son) go at it at least once every hour or two for at least a few minutes. Usually they work it out themselves.

My 15 yr old and 11 yr old boys.. they are mirror image of each other. They are so much alike that if you couldn't see they were two different kids you would swear they were the same kid! With being SO much alike they are at it the most out of any of the kids. They are starting to grow out of it Thankfully!! But for the past year or so they were bad at fighting with each other. But I think once they both get on the same maturity level they are going to be inseparable and the closet out of all my kids.

My #2 son (12)... now he gets along with everyone. He is a big time people pleaser! He doesn't fight with anyone and is usually the one to break things up nicely.

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A.G.

answers from Dallas on

My boys get along extremely well. I keep waiting for a time when my oldest will get sick of having his little brother hanging around, but that time hasn't come, yet. They're good about giving each other space, but generally they prefer being together. My oldest is exceptionally laid back; that probably helps. :)

They're 7 (well, 8 in a couple of weeks) and 14.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

My kids are 5 (boy) and 9 (girl)... they are like 2 peas in a pod. They like each other and really love each other. They have always been close and bonded. My son looks out for his sister and my daughter looks out for her brother.
Sure, they are kids and have their moments, but overall they really get along well. Sometimes when the other one is not home, they will say "I love my sister...", or "I miss my brother..."

And when they are both being mischievous.. they are are like Bonnie & Clyde. ;) But its cute.

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K.B.

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My 4 boys (almost 10, 6, 5, 3.5) fight about 75% of the time- physically and verbally. I am told by some that this is normal for boys that close in age. I am told by others (probably the people like you- who have near perfect kids) that they are not normal. Their fighting literally drives me insane, but, it is what it is and the 25% of the time they're not fighting, they are the best of friends.

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