End of the world--MISMATCHED PJ'S

It's the age....My 3.5 year old is like this with a lot of things.....I know some of it is age, but then the control freak that I am probably has rubbed off on her. OOOOOOOPPPPPPPPSSSSSSSSS! LOL! :P

My 7 year old fell to pieces because he couldn't find the right shorts for basketball camp yesterday. No other shorts would do.

No tags allowed in anything. Socks must be a certain type and on just so.

He isn't OCD though. It's more of a sensory thing. My oldest is more OCD. With him everything must be in it's place all the time. Every book must be in order on the bookcase. Everything on his table in his room must be exactly in place. He's the only 13 year old I know with a spotlessly clean and orderly room.

I talked to the doctor about it once, and he said that as long as my son was willing to make a mess when he played (and he was), then I should just be happy to have such a neat child (and I am). He just always cleaned everything up immediately when he was finished playing. He never could stand clutter, and he still can't. I'm the same way. His brother, the first one I mentioned with the basketball shorts, missed out on that gene. ;-)

I think he is typical. They tend to have a mind of their own and are testing boundaries. My 3 year old loves pajamas. Over the winter, he would come home from daycare and immediately change into PJ's. He's not so much about matching but what color he wants. This from the same kid that gets food on his shirt, no problem...but a little water on his shirt and the whole outfit is changed. He also changes depending on what his friends are wearing. He changed shoes three times once because as each new friend joined us playing, he had to change into what they were wearing...tennies to flip flops to sandals. Ugh! By the way...we do have a favorite pair of pj's that have a button down shirt and the nickname Hef has been thrown around as well. Funny!

OBVIOUSLY, you don't understand the true value of fashion and the role of proper attire in a 4 year old's life. He's not the problem- your blindness to the importance of having matching PJ's is! Fashion intervention anyone? I'd say it is a serious condition and needs to be taken care of right away- it is affecting her poor son...

Oh, he's just being a 4 year old. :)

That's a 4 year old for you!

My younger daughter would get a little neurotic about stuff like that around that age. She stopped doing that when she got really into dress-up and we praised her "fashion sense" and how "fancy" she looked. LOL Now that she thinks she's being uber-cool and trendy by mismatching her clothing, she is not nearly such a nutcase about stuff like mismatched socks or pj's. ;)

That is so funny. At least he's not insisting on wearing a silk bathrobe even during the day.
Little kids can be so weird.
My friend had a little brother that insisted on dressing up for dinner every night. I'm not kidding. Suit jacket, tie, his hair slicked back. I'm surprised he didn't ask for a martini with his fish sticks and tater tots. You'd think he was a 4 year old James Bond or something. It was hilarious. One night, he actually said, "Hey, pretty Mama....pass the french fries."
I don't think your kid has OCD. He just wants to be rocking his jammies.
My mom made me a dress when I was little and I loved it except for the fact it only had one pocket. On the left hand side. I begged her to add another pocket so I wouldn't be lopsided. I cried every time I had to wear that dress.
Ironically, as an adult, I hate things without pockets.
I really think it's just a weird little kid thing. He'll grow out of it.

Best wishes.

It is just his age.
It just is.
Yes, it is a problem to a little kid like that.
Phases.
Then Teenagers, also act like that.
So its just a different manifestation, of the same thing, but at a different age stage.
What fun.
LOL

Your son, is highly normal, for your resident 4 year old.

it is just their age stage.
Little kids and older kids, go through phases of liking things a certain way.
It is not OCD or some mental malfunction.

I am laughing right now at your comment about Hef!!! That is so funny!!!

I think if you let him get a way with it, then he will keep on insisting on matching tops and bottoms. However, if you can avoid the battle and match the top and bottom, I would do that!

Good luck!

HaHaHa, are you talking about my 3 yr old? My drama king is the ultimate pj fashionista. If his Spidermans, Batmans or Captn Americas are not clean, he will take forever to give in to his cute monkey jammers because they are not good enough. Really? Are the superhero pj's that cool?

I think your little fashionista is just being a typical 4 yr old who really enjoys having matched pajamas. Who doesn't?

Could be either or. I like to believe that my daughter is a little bit OCD (it helps me be more patient with her)...I do everything I can to keep things together for her...She is a bit older now (6 1/2) so she is a little more understanding that sometimes we just can't find something right now...but when she was younger she was more difficult...that went for more than just clothes too, plates/forks/cups/bowls had to match color, etc...

I tend to not put the "picky" label on kids because I don't think they really have a choice. We tell them "this goes with that" and they believe us, but then we expect them to go with the flow if it doesn't work that way. Some kids could care less, but others don't understand it...

Wait until he doesn't want to get changed at all, and insists on just staying in his jeans for bed (like my stepsons did)...

They are quirky at that age. Give him a few years, you will be lucky to get him to wear pajamas!!!!!

.

It's typical, but also very easily avoided: just make sure he's got his clean, matching pjs, wash them together, fold them together, put them in the drawer together, voila, no more tantrums. I'm going through the 10yr old girl phase of "my hair needs to look perfectly like I don't care how I look, so I'm gonna spend 20 minutes making it look like I just rolled out of bed, but it also HAS to look cute, like I wake up looking like this, even though I don't and....." Every age has its quirks, it keeps us parents on our toes, doesn't it? (^_^)

LOL! I think it's the age. My son is going through a phase where he REFUSES to wear a matched set! Oh, except for the ones that glow in the dark!

I think it's the age. My oldest was a lot like that when he was 4/5. Now, at 7, he could care less what he wears or what he looks like wearing it. I'm hoping he grows out of this phase soon :) My 3 y/o picked out his own jammies last night ~ long sleeved, blue striped baseball top with spider man short bottoms. He was quite a sight!

I WANT JAMMIES TO MATCH!! I really love when they match. I buy them matching, and I want them to wear them that way! I dont get my way often. When it was my kids, yes, they wore matching tops and bottoms until they were old enough to dress themselves,,like at 17,,lol My grand daughter,, well I have to let her mommy be in charge but if she is at my house and staying late, or overnight, I put her in matching jammies. I get a bit ticked if she goes home and comes back the next morning in some missmatched pair cause she got the top or bottom dirty when away from me. I know I will probably never see the other piece and nothing will ever match again. We have this trouble with shoes and other clothes too. Sure its not worth a big fight, but is annoying when I pick out cute stuff and then never get to see her in them. My kids sleep in their clothes and that just makes me sick. Let your son come live with me. I will supply him with as many matching tops and bottoms as he wants. I love him already!

i just look at it as all kids have their little hang-ups. my son insists certain items MUST be together, or if you tell him the sky is blue he will scream "no it's not" depending on his mood. Other times he could care less what is going on and will politely agree, yes that sky is very blue! so i think its a phase, one of many they go in and out of. Maybe he just wants to make sure you are keeping up with your laundry chores :)

So if the pants are doggie and the top is a robot he freaks out? I think we need a little more information. I am surprised that he really notices but different kids have opinions of different things. My son could care less about what I put on him but he has definite opinions on his hats and sunglasses.

Since its important to him, why not give him the matched pjs and avoid the drama. As long as its isolated to pjs (which are comfy and feel nice) then don't worry. All kids have their quirks.

My 2 year old daughter is the same way and I LOVE it!! I hate hate hate when things don't match. I won't wear tops and bottoms that don't go well together to bed, so why would I expect my kids too?
My little one is only two and LOVES picking out her clothes pjs included. The only problem we have is her favorite pair have fleece bottoms, and we live in FL it's already over 90 degrees here and she always wants to wear her penguin jammies.

She also gets to pick what she wants to wear everyday. Sometimes I let her pick between two things other days (when I'm feeling brave and we don't have to rush anywhere) I just ask her what she wants to wear. She will now tell me when things don't match on others...I may have created a monster.

We should get our little ones together for a runway show!

Um... I didn't know this WASN'T a problem.

My pj sets can't be mismatched. Pink monkey tops have to be worn with pink monkey bottoms, not with plain black bottoms. That's just wrong!

But yes, I do have a little OCD problem (That my family LOVES to make fun of).

the way to fix this is the way I fix my sons sock problem. just by them all the same. don't get different styles of pj's. get 2 or 3 pairs of the same kind. then it won't be an issue.

It's a real problem to my son ... our solution is to only wear the pants, he does not like tops much anyways so we save money by buying only pj pants (we call em comfy pants) and for winter we buy plain black/white/grey hanes undershirts for tops. Works for us.

he is a kid!!! my grandaughter needs matching everything........except socks aren't in this rule!!!! we call her 'the faschionista'.......might appreciate this when he is a teenager!!!!

My almost 5 year old does this too, and has for at least two years. Whats weird is it has to be her definition of matching. Usually they are actually the top and bottoms that go together but sometimes she swears up and down that two pieces from two different sets, that really don't go together, in fact are the correct match. I'm a stickler for matching pjs (everything really) so this drives me nutty but I've learned to choose my battles. I'd rather her be in pjs then naked, which is my husband's alternative. Or sleeping in the shirt she wore all day, that bothers me too. Good luck, I'd like to say that maybe its a phase, but I'm thinking some kids are just particular about what they wear. :)

I think hes just being 4. My neice is allmost 4 and she is the same way. Excecpt she will only sleep in princess outfits -like the dress up ones you get for halloween. I hope my kids dont want matching pjs..or they are in trouble! Sometimes in the rush to dress them both I put the wrong top or bottom on one of them....Oh well noone sees them but me !

Challenging but cute in a way. It sound to me like he is picky and that is not something I would expect will change. There are two sides to every coin - picky (attention to detail) is not all bad.

To a 4 year old, thankfully it is the end of the world. It means he doesn't know about real problems yet such as how the bills are going to get paid, layoffs, wars, the spending done in DC. My 4 year old granddaughter picked out her daddy's casket last summer, she doesn't worry about matching PJs because her favorite is her daddy's t shirts. Help him find the matching PJs and let him know you are there to help him get through his "end of the world" problems.

May all our biggest problem be that we have missed matched PJ's.

I would suggest only have one or 2 pair, and make them the same so he won't be able to tell if they are mixed or not.

LOL! He should be MY kid. I HATE mismatched p.j.'s, socks or outfits!

My kiddos love Mismatched anything....that is why I created these....https://www.etsy.com/listing/65121017/design-your-own-paj...

Hef...I LOVE IT! :) I think it's pretty normal. My daughter will be 4 in Sept. and there's no way she'd wear mis matched PJs either. When my husband was a kid he had to wear color coordinating tube socks, remember the ones with colorful stripes at the top??, with EVERY outfit. My MIL and SILs tell me he would freak out if he couldn't find matching colors! He did this until he was like 5 or 6 and then he moved past it. Now he asks for me to help him put his outfits together! LOL! Your son will probably move past it eventually and if he doesn't well at least you'll know he's capable of dressing himself!

My 2 1/2 yr old son is particular about his clothes sometimes too. I think it's a way for them to be in control and I don't see any problem with them picking with they wear to bed, as long as it weather appropriate. No worries.

As you said yourself, "This is a problem?" :) Sounds like a pick-your-battles situation to me. I would just make sure he has pjs that match and find something else to argue about.

This interesting dilemma will stick with me for a long time...honestly, I wouldn't think a 4 yr. BOY would even notice?!?

I have absolutely zero advice or experience. My guys are fashionably clueless.

You have to keep me posted how this one resolves. I'm serious, say when he starts school, will he insist on coordinated clothes too? I have never heard of such a concern in a boy.