Help with Wetting the Bed

Updated on March 04, 2008
S.P. asks from Jefferson, TX
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My son is about to turn 5, and is still having a problem with wetting the bed. I've taken the drinks away at a proper time, I've even waked him up to use the restroom in the middle of the night, but he still will wet the bed. He has no problems during the day, it's only at night. If you have any tips please let me know! I need all the help I can get.

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J.O.

answers from Longview on

I had three daughters with this problem. One wet the bed until she was 10 years old. I took them to see a Chiropractor actually a Gonstead Chiropractor. He found that they had a spot on their lower back just above their bottom that was out. He says this is common in children because they fall down etc. He fixed the problem in about 6-9 months. We have been completely dry for over a year without meds.

Home school mom of 3.

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K.C.

answers from Houston on

I wish this was an easy question mine was fully trained at 4 and at 6 started going again.He is now 11 fixin to be twelve and still wetting te bed. I have no clue what to do.

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L.P.

answers from Houston on

Put him in pullups and relax. He will grow out of it. My older son did the same til he was 7(?) or so. I tried not putting him in pullups, but he slept so hard he never woke up when he was wet. Dr said some just take longer. Holding back drinks didn't help. I don't agree with waking a child to make him go to the restroom. That's just training you.

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L.O.

answers from San Antonio on

Hello, I also had a child that was late to stay dry at night. Well, when I listened to him sleeping one night I noticed that he would stop breathing. Well, this was due to enlarged tonsils. He would toss and turn until he found a position that allowed him to breath freely, and once asleep he was out. I also had another child with the same trouble. Come to find out it can be heritary. My husband had a brothe that wet the bed until Jr. High.
My peditatrician also said to get her out of the goodnight type diapers. It still took a litle while, but it will come.

Leah

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C.F.

answers from Houston on

Bedwetting can be related to anxiety or can simply be genetic. It sounds like you are doing many of the normally prescribed things. Research indicates that the alarm systems are the most effective way of rapidly reducing bed-wetting. They are somewhat expensive, but you basically put underwear on your child that has a sensor and as soon as any wetness occurs, an alarm goes off that wakes the child. The child is instructed beforehand to get up when the alarm sounds and finish urinating in the bathroom. It has a pretty high success rate, but there is a chance of relapse once the system is discontinued. If this happens, usually trying it again for a two week period will bring sustained success. I've never used the system, but know of some who have. I am just going on research I've read in my psychology classes.

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M.P.

answers from Sherman on

My daughter is 9 and still has that problem. Her pediatrician says that most of the time it has to do with a small bladder. He suggested trying to get her to hold it durning the day if she has to go a little longer than normal to try and stretch her bladder. She is also on Detrol for the time being and it is working very well. My 13 year old daughter also had problems with bedweeting but by the time she was 8 it stopped.

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A.G.

answers from Killeen on

First of all be sure that you don't shame him, some people actually do not wake up. Support him, pray with him about the issue and turn it over to Jesus. It will right itself in time. Don't medicate him. My husband gave our little girl a clue "when you feel like going to the bathroom in your dream, it means you need to wake up and go". I don't know if that will help but our daughter is 4, going on 5 this summer and she still wears her pull-up at night and during naps (especially in the car if she is going to fall asleep). We find she sometimes goes to the bathroom without knowing it and other times goes to the bathroom b/c she is lazy and does not want to get out of bed. We have 4 children, she is our 3rd. We give her a "treat" if she wakes up with clean pull-ups in the morning and this has HIGHLY motivated her to stop going to the bathroom in them - amazing! We are organic "nuts" so our children think honey w/cocoa and mixed nuts is a treat - whatever works:)>. What is the saying "If you think of it first it is positive reinforcement, not a bribe". Be blessed my friend, they are only little one time, enjoy it, no one goes to college in a diaper, ignore those who pressure you and rest in the Lord - He will meet your needs and answer your prayers to be creative in dealing with this growth opportunity in your life. Love your little boy, spend special reading time with him, encourage him and put yourself in his place each morning in your mind and I bet you see a resolution to the problem within in 2 years. Do NOT medicate your child, chemically poisoning him and lowering his immune system is not worth the time of washing a few sheets or the cost of a pull-up each day.

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N.E.

answers from Austin on

Hi S.,
We took our daughter to a pediatric urologist in Austin who helped establish the pattern for wetting (ex. is there any mild wetting during the day that goes unnoticed when they laugh or sneeze, etc.). In the end we discovered that it was due to constipation. When they are small, they only have so much room, and the bladder releases more easily. After getting her on a diet that included more fiber including a supplement from time to time, especially in summer when they sweat so much, she doesn't wet the bed. The key for us was being consistent with the fiber. I wish you guys luck!

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J.L.

answers from San Antonio on

My close friend, mother of 12,now almost 13, has two or three that have bed wetting problems. One is almost 7 years old. She says that she notices a difference in what he eats/drinks around 8pm and after. She said that sugary things, milk and dairy products are not good to have before bed. I found it surprising. But she has quite a bit of experience! Just thought I'd pass it on.

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C.G.

answers from Austin on

Hi S.-

I have a son who will be 6 in June. He has only been able to be dry through the night since late last year. Dr says they aren't officially bed wetters until they are 6. I had the smame concerns.... for us it just happened naturally. Give it some time.

Good luck!

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A.J.

answers from Houston on

Is he getting enough sleep? I know it sounds weird, but when my son started wetting the bed after many months of not doing it, I put him in bed 1 hour earlier and he stopped! I had read it on a flier on bedwetting and was trying anything!

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K.M.

answers from San Antonio on

First you need to know that it isn't a medical condition and I did that.. Usually if it is medically connected you know this already. and the nighttime pull ups are only a cruch. So,I know this sounds really HARSH, but out of deperastion, I did this and it WORKED !!! I tried EVERYTHING that anyone could come up with and nothing worked, so I told my son, IF he wet the bed again, he would be TOTALLY responsible for changing the bed BY HIMSELF and washing the wet sheets and drying them and folding them. I FOLLOWED THRU with that, he wet the bed I got up with him and HE had to take off the sheets and put them in the washer and get clean sheets and HE had to put them on CORRECTLY.. and I sat there until he got it right,, he was very upset about this process and he NEVER EVER wet the bed again. He also was 5.

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H.F.

answers from San Angelo on

OK, I personally have a problem thinking that self esteem issues are to blame for your son's enuresis (bed wetting). My husband wet the bed till he was seven and he went to the Air Force academy and is a pilot...no lack of confidence there!

I agree that a visit to the pediatrician to rule out physical issues is a great idea. Once that is done...

Very often children, specifically boys, have bladders that are comparatively small to the amount of fluids they need in a day to stay hydrated. As they grow, their bladders will grow. OK, so just put Pampers "good nights" on him. They are like training diapers but for big kids. Tell him that there are a lot of kids who can't help going potty at night (obviously because they have a product called "good nights" specifically for it). Don't make a big deal out of it. I have read in many responses on bed wetting in the past, that not giving your child milk after bed will help a lot. Anyway, don't sweat it...happens to the best of them...and he will grow out of it!

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J.H.

answers from Houston on

S., My son wet the bed for years also. We used the crib sheets under the sheets and mattress pad to protect the mattress. I took him to the doctor a few times, took away water, juice, ect and he still did also. The doctor found nothing wrong and told us to track growing spurts. That is what it was. He is 9 and 1/2 now and for the past year I think we have had 2 episodes where it would happen for 2 weeks at a time every 2-3 months. Now he is not growing every 2-3 months it has gone to every 4-5 months. His bladder must have now caught up with his body the doctor said. Hope that helps.

J. H

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S.B.

answers from Sherman on

Well I definately do not have the answer on how to make the bed wetting stop, but I do have an idea on how to make it easier for you. My daughter had the exact same problem from the time she was in big girl panties until she was about 8. I did everything that you have already done, but to make it easier on myself I just put her in pull-ups to save any hassells in the morning as far as washing sheets, airing out the mattress etc.... She just slept so soundly that she didn't even know when she had to go to the bathroom. It may be a little added expense but definately worth it. Hope that helps a little!

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S.W.

answers from Waco on

Well your doing the right things. Alot of times it is basically self esteem that the child lacks. So it is frustrating to control the accedents. Just keep encouraging him. It takes time yes but keep at it. Good Luck

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S.B.

answers from Sherman on

My daughter had the same problem and I tried everything that you have tried. A friend of mine told me about bedwetting alarms. I purchased one and used it for my daughter. It took about 3 months and she was completely free of bedwetting. What happens is you attach the alarm to their nightshirt, and then there is a wire that attachs to the underwear. When wetness begins the alarm will sound and vibrate. The child will then have to get up to stop the alarm. It is loud and will wake deep sleepers. At first I didn't think it would work and thought it would be a waste of money, but it did work. She has been free from any accidents for a year. You can read more about the bedwetting alarms online at www.bedwettingstore.com Hope this helps.

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T.L.

answers from San Antonio on

This is perfectly normal, especially if you or your husband were bed wetters. It's really just a nervous system thing between his brain and his bladder. Give him time. Don't try to work on this until he is 7 or 8. Then there is an alarm thing you can use, among other things. Try the bedwettingstore.com. See your pediatrician to get a referral to a peds urologist.

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V.L.

answers from Houston on

My 17 year old will be 18 in March. He's a BIG boy, but 15 years old, he was still wetting the bed. I tried everything you've tried and then some. Come to find out it was a herridetary condition. I had problems with it to 14, my brother to 15, my Daddy to 14, we detinetly had problems. I finally thew my hands up, went and bought some plastic sheets for the bed. and waited. At 15, he finally quit wetting the bed, Thank God!!! Good Luck!

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J.G.

answers from Austin on

My understanding is that 5 is the earliest a child should be expected to stay dry through the night - some kids do it younger, but they are the exception, not the rule. In other words, it's totally normal that he still wets the bed. Just keep doing what you're doing & he'll get there!

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R.M.

answers from San Antonio on

You may have force yourself to wakeup in the middle of the night to wake up your son. Hopefully this can be done before he wets. I have 2 boys now 15 and 17. The above action I had to do for each child. Sometimes I had to wake up as many as3 time in one night for about two weeks. Aslo, DO NOT let him drink any 1-2 hours before bedtime.

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C.C.

answers from Austin on

My son is 6 years old and is still wearing a night time diaper. He very rarely has an accident during the day, but it happens on occasion. I am not concerned about it b/c my pediatritian has told me that many boys don't have proper control of their bladder at night, their muscles have not matured/fully developed and it will all pass eventually. However, he may need a night time diaper for a few more years.

My son is uncomfortable about his diapers but completely accepts it b/c he prefers a wet diaper to a wet bed, as do I.

Hang in there and don't make a big deal about it. He really can't help it. "This to shall pass."

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A.F.

answers from Houston on

I would suggest watching what he eats and drinks. Anything carbonated or high in color content and sugars is not good. I made a rule in my house "NO SODA". I do not allow my daughter to drink soda and I try to always give her drinks that are 100% juice. Another thing you may want to try is monitor what he is watching before he goes to sleep. Just to be sure he is not frieghten by anything. Set a schedule, no liquids 1 hour before bed. And be sure he goes to the bathroom before he goes to sleep. Try a combination of these things and I am sure the results will be different. Good Luck!!!

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A.F.

answers from San Antonio on

Have you tried cutting out all beverages 2 hours before bedtime? Have you consulted a doctor?

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R.R.

answers from Beaumont on

take him to a urologist.i did all the same tricks with my 12 yr old (then 7). she wanted to go to overnight camp but was scared. the dr put her on meds(CAN'T REMEMBER THE NAME)but it worked like a dream. we are now all dry.

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H.M.

answers from Houston on

I know exactly how you feel. My son will be 5 in Oct. and he is still in a pull-up during the night. I talked to my pedi. and he said there was nothing to worry about. He said their bladders are not big enough to hold it through the night yet. I asked if there was anything I could or should do and he said to withhold fluids from him about 1 hr. before bed but that is about it. So take heart you are not alone. I hope this help you.

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S.K.

answers from Houston on

He may have some issue, some sort of trauma that you are unaware of(moving, lost of family member, bullies at school, or even a new family member in the house). But if thats what it is then its helping him cope(Not that that makes it ok, sometimes it just helps to know why) If you cant figure it out then maybe theres nothing there and you might want to try getting mad... I don't know if you have already but letting your child know (and I mean really know and not just you being frustrated) that this isn't excepted behavior and that there will be repercussions if it continues is a good way to nip it in the bud. My daughter and I went round and round about multiple issues, getting out of bed in the middle of the night, wetting the bed, and so on. When I made it clear that it wasnt ok and that she had to stop it started to slow down the incidents and then they stopped all together. I started by getting firm, then every night I told her when she was allowed to get out of bed (fire, bleeding, bathroom- but dont come get mommy just go back to bed, and then finally nightmares-come get mommy) and that other than those times she had to stay in bed till the sun came up. We also put the radio in her room and play the classical music station, turns out thats what they play at school during nap time and it helped. I know it can sound harsh but dancing around they issue isnt going to work. You have done everything in your power and now the power of the voice of MOM may needs to come out.

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B.S.

answers from Austin on

Just wanted to let you know. You are not alone in this one. I have the same issues with my son who is 5 1/2 yrs old. Funny thing is if I put him in pullups before bed I've noticed he is dry in the morning but if I don't get him in them before falling asleep - very wet issue!!!

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P.S.

answers from San Angelo on

S.,

Please take your son to a pediatrician and have him evaluated. His bladder my be too small or there might be other physical issues at hand. There is a medication, DDAVP, that stops bedwetting at night. My daughter had to use it for years to keep her from wetting the bed. She is a deep sleeper and just could not wake up to go potty. There were other issues at hand that are resolving themselves. But the good news is....Now she is older and can wake up.

Hope this helps..........

P.

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L.B.

answers from Beaumont on

It is more common than you think, especially for boys. It is not something they are doing intentionally and I would not punish. Use the overnight pants you can get in the store and give him some time. It wouldn't hurt to see your pediatrician just to make sure things are fine, but he probably just needs some more time. Hang in there.

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V.W.

answers from Austin on

My son wet the bed until he was almost 6 (and now and again we still have our moments, but not very often...he is 8 1/2 now)I did the same things... no drinks after 7:30, I'd wake him up before I went to bed (about 11:00) and still we would have a wet bed in the morning. I did notice it was less and less as he got older.(after 5)
He is a kid on the go, and he plays really hard! I realized he was/is a very heavy sleeper and couldn't wake up enough to take himself to the bathroom. I think he may also have a smaller bladder.. becase even now he goes to the bathroom a lot more them my other children. My sister's daughter has the same problem (she is also 8 now) and her doctor said it is often related to a change in their hormones.
My advice.. keep doing what your doing, and hang in there. He will more then likely grow out of it over time. I have two other kids who have never wet their beds ever. Each one is different!! Most importantly don't make him feel bad about it, it may be something he really cannot control right now.
Best of luck!!

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M.V.

answers from Houston on

Hi, S.,

I am an older woman--63 years old--who wet the bed until I was in 5th grade! And I had to sleep in a double bed with my sister who was 16 months older than I. Her reaction and that of my mother were of great comfort for me.

I may not have much of a "cure" for the situation, but I do know that love and patience mean everything to the child who wets the bed. My sister never got angry or disgusted with me, nor did my mother. As I grew older, I learned to get up and get a bath mat, put it on the wet spot, and go back to sleep. That way no one's sleep was interrupted, and it didn't matter if I changed sheets in the morning or in the middle of the night. Most of the time my sister never woke up or got into the urine. To this day, I cherish the love they showed me until I was able to stop.

The fact that my father used very stern physical punishment with one particularly traumatic incident before the age of 4 probably didn't help at all. But I don't remember ever wetting the bed after fifth grade, which seems like a long, long time when your child is 5. But all I can say is that he doesn't like it either so be sure to love him in the middle of it all.

Take care.
M.

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S.J.

answers from Waco on

My sister and cousin wet the bed until they were about 8 years old. My mom and Aunt took them to the doctor and he prescribed some nose spray for them. It was one squirt in each side at night. We were told it was due to the part of your brain that tells you when you need to go to the bathroom falling completely asleep while they slept. I want to say they were on the nose spray for a couple of months and never had anymore problems.

Good luck with it!

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J.L.

answers from Austin on

I know how this is. Bed wetting runs in my family - my mother wet the bed until she was 16 yrs. old. I have a 10 year son who wets the bed. If you have tried all those things and nothing is working, my suggestion would be to buy some pull-ups that he can wear just at night and let him grow out of it. My son is finally having more dry nights than he is wet ones and has even been going to other people's houses to spend the night with friends. It will go away.

J.
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J.H.

answers from San Antonio on

Hi! My son is going to be 8 years old next month and he still wets at night occasionally. We have tried a lot of different methods in order to avert this from happening such as no drinks after dinner and waking him up in the middle of the night to urinate. We also talked to two different pediatricians that said it is totally normal for children to wet the bed up until they are about 12 years old. If bed wetting occurs after 12 years old then medication might be required. We buy my son "Good Nights" or "Pull-Ups Night time". He wears them every night. If he doesn't wet then he uses the same pair the next night. It's a little extra expense, but well worth the peace of mind it gives everyone. My son has always been a very deep sleeper and this is a common characteristic of bed wetters. My advice is to not worry too much about him wetting the bed it's pretty common from what the doctors and what I've heard from a lot of other mothers. You can save yourself a lot of stress and extra laundry by using something like "Good Nights".

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B.T.

answers from Houston on

I have a 5 year old daughter who was having the same issues. We stumbled across the solution when we were investigating her 20th ear infection - even after tubes. She went for allergy testing and there was a strong sense that dairy was the culprit for all the infections. None of the tests showed that she was allergic to dairy, however, the allergist said to strictly take her off it anyway. She has been infection free for 5 months now - which is a record. She has had 3 colds which did not result in an ear infection - she had never had a cold without it going to her ears before. On top of that - removing the dairy (all, including cassein, whey, etc.) has resulted in her waking up dry. We were taking her to the bathroom in the middle of the night before, just to save the sheets from getting wet, not to have her wake up dry - because that didn't help. Did all the recommended stuff. Dairy and lots of sugar are the big culprits. Had another friend who's child was having the same issues. Cut out dairy and unatural sweets and that week she was dry as well. They say to give it 6 weeks, but both of our kids were dry within a week. For consistant dryness, it took a couple of months, with an accident every two weeks - which we could always trace back to increased sugar intake. Good luck - I know it improved my daughters self esteem immensely.

PS - One of the most common allergens or irritaters to the bladder is dairy. I talked to a microbiologist and she said that 85% of people are allergic to dairy (even without it showing up on tests) and the other 15% just think they aren't allergic to dairy.

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S.B.

answers from Houston on

Hi, S.. Does your son have problems with fluid on the ears. Not an earinfection. My daughter constantly had fluid on her ears.When she didn't have tubes in her ears she would wet the bed only at night. She did that until she was 7. Dr put tubes in her aers and it quit. She explained it to be as hearing water sloshing around when she laid down. If you haven;t done so have his ears checked for fluid. Hope this helps

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C.V.

answers from San Antonio on

Have you tried a bedwetting alarm? It has a little clip which attaches to his underwear, and the moment it becomes a little wet, it will sound a shrill alarm. It will hopefully train him to wake up when he starts to wet. We tried it with our son, and if nothing else, it woke me up to deal with the wet bed. After a while, he was able to wake fully before he finished wetting, and continue the job in the bathroom. The alarms are not very expensive and can be purchased online. Or, if you live in the San Antonio area, I have one you can have - at 8 years old my son finally grew out of the bedwetting.

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E.R.

answers from Austin on

I too have a 5 year old son who still wets the bed. I have two friends who have an 8 and 10 year old that also still wet the bed. What I've been told is not to worry about it and eventually he will outgrow it. I try not to make a big deal about it and just have him sleep in a pull-up. I have talked to the doctor about it and he checked my son out for any physical problems that might cause this but everything appeared to be normal so he too said not to worry about it. I've heard this is very normal, especially for boys!

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B.T.

answers from Houston on

Hey S.~

I also have a little guy who has this problem. He'll be 5 in June. We've made sure that he doesn't drink too much before bed, but the only thing that has been effective is for one of us to wake him in the night to go potty. Even then, bless his heart, he sometimes wakes up wet, although only rarely. I am pregnant, so I am up in the night anyway, and I usually wake him between midnight and one. He goes to bed at 8:30 and wakes up at 7:00. We've just decided that his little body isn't quite ready to wake up on its own, and figure that it will with time. He uses the restroom frequently during the day and drinks more than my other two sons, so I think it's just a case of this is how he is. One thing I tried that I thought would work (but didn't) is having him wear the Pull-Ups that turn cold when they get wet; they didn't wake him up, but maybe that could help your child. The other thing I think is important is that we have tried very hard not to make him feel responsible. We just matter-of-factly change the bed and explain that his body hasn't "caught up" to his big-boy self yet. Now, on the mornings that he wakes up wet, he tells me, changes his clothes, and gets on with his day. I figure it's all part of deal, and I'm glad that he doesn't feel bad because of it. Good luck, and here's hoping for growing bladders! :)
B.

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A.B.

answers from Houston on

Hey Suzan,

I do not have a child who wets the bed but I was one, embarrassingly enough-LOL. I would suggest not letting him drink any liquids at least two hours before his bed time. Also,, my mom would wake me up in the middle of the night and take me to the rest room, seems like a pain but it worked. Also, I am not suggesting that he has any issues but wetting the bed is also a defense mechanism as well as a sign of stress oe some children do it for attention if their parents are busy and they feel like they don't get enough time. Most likely he just has a sensitive bladder and should probably be woken up to use the restroom. You could always use the overnites as well, they are like pull-ups for bigger kids.

I wet the bed until I was nine and my mom tried everything and at the age of 17 i was diagnosed with kidney disease, so it could be a number of reasons. I would try no liquids, waking him up to use the restroom & the pull-ups and if that doesn't work i would talk to his pediatrician.

Good luck!

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L.S.

answers from Austin on

Hi S.:

You sound like you're already doing all the things that will help to avoid your son's bed wetting at night. The only other advice I would give you would be for you to be patient.

My oldest son, who is now 14, had the same problem until he was 6 or 7. The doctor expained to me that, sometimes the bladder takes a little longer to mature in some children, more often boys, but that eventually the problem would resolve. The doctor was right. My son quit wetting the bed some time before he turned age 7. So...just get a good mattress cover, some pull-ups for the night time, be patient, and enjoy your son. Good luck!

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J.R.

answers from San Antonio on

usually boys wet during at night and girls during the day. It is usually due to a imature blatter. Seek out your childs doctor to make sure there isnt an infection,then just wait it out....night time underpants work great. Dont make him feel bad he doesnt want to wet the bed. My son out grew this around 6 and his cousin took until almost 7.

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L.P.

answers from El Paso on

I, too, had a son that wet the bed every night. We used bed wetting alarms, taking away privileges, waking him up in the middle of the night, rewards for a dry night, punishing him with a cold shower in the morning, etc, etc,. He is a special child and now a grown man 28 years old. He has a learning disabilty with an IQ of about a 70 almost mentally retarded. He had no friends who called him up or ask him to play. His speech is still sometimes hard to understand. He was the middle child of 3 boys.

What we found was that he was very frustrated in school and could not focus. He would try, but failed in many things, He could not learn as "normal children" and we later learned that he needed a smaller setting. He would still wet the bed at 8 or 10 years old and until he was moved to the special ed class, he was miserable. We could not face the truth about his special needs. It was a very hard and bitter pill to swallow.

But once he moved to his new school, with a smaller class and more individualized attention, he was on cloud 9. You could see him happy, successful, less stressed and a different little boy.

He is now employed at Walmart, takes the bus as he can't pass the driver's test, and is a highly remarkable young man. He learned how to build bikes and now builds sophisticated BBQ grills in less than an hour. How about that? All he does is look at the pictures and puts things together. He still has no friends, but we enjoy taking him on vacation with us and is our constant happy companion.
HOpe this helps.

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S.T.

answers from Killeen on

Get on line or ask your pediatrician about an alarm device. It hooks onto your childs underwear and sounds and the drop of liquid. This will wake the child to go to the restroom. 2 weeks to a month and they are cured.

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P.K.

answers from Houston on

My son is 7 and we still have that problem. We don't use the pull ups just the sheet protector for the bed. We have experimented with him and have a routine down. If he falls out of the routine he will pee in the bed. He stops eating and drinking at 7pm and then he will go as many times as possible before his 8:30pm bed time. He has to get enough sleep and he can do it. If he stays up too late or eats and drinks after 7pm then this doesn't work. If he pees in the bed he has to shower and wash his own stuff and he isn't allowed to play any computer games which is his favorite thing to do. That gives him incentive to stick with the routine. We have talked to his pediatrician and he has said it doesn't become a health issue until he becomes 11-12 and is still doing it. It's a daily battle and some days are successful and some days aren't. Our guy is a HEAVY sleeper. We can wake him up in the middle of the night too. He doesn't remember it ever.

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L.D.

answers from Houston on

My daughter had this same problem. She slept in pull ups till she was 5. We used a bedwetting alarm. It took a few weeks before she recognized the sound and could wake up but she is 10 now and has not had a problem since then. Apparently she was such a deep sleeper that her muscles would relax and she would wet the bed. The alarm is horribly high pitched and she slept thru it the first few times as well. If you need the name of the company we used I can get it at home and send it to you. It was quite expensive but worth it for her self esteem.

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K.C.

answers from Houston on

My daughter had the same problem. I took her to a pediatric urologist and he found that the flap blocking the flow of urine back into the urinary tract was too short...as a result, her urine was flowing back into her bladder and causing it to get pock marked and she could not hold it when she relaxed at night. I encourage you to get your son checked. It took a while for her bladder to heal but she is all better now.

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P.J.

answers from Beaumont on

Hi S.,
We have things in common. I am also a teacher (not currently working as a teacher) and I have 3 children who have all experienced the same bedwetting problem. After years of being sleep deprived, I found an online store called The Bedwetting Store. They offer many resources and solutions for children with night-time bedwetting. The Malam Alarm worked to "cure" my oldest child around age 12. My middle child stopped bedwetting at age 8 without the alarm (she was scared to death of it) and we are still having trouble with my youngest, age 10, as the alarm still does not wake her up. We did not discover this company until my oldest was 11. It took about a year of using the alarm nightly, I believe, because we did not intervene earlier.

Hope this information has helped. You are not alone.
PJ

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