I Made a Sin:(

Updated on February 10, 2011
J.H. asks from Kaufman, TX
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hi,mom's i need to vent and ask if i was wrong are right....first off i know it wasnt right but didnt know how esle to get out of the bad marrige please dont judge me,im not a bad person i was just in a bad spot.....ok i was married to my first husband 16years we had two kids together,im very thankful for my babys but i hate that man and i know hate is a strong word but nobody knows what he put me threw:( i should have left him along time ago but i didnt have no where to go are no one to turn to.......i have alot of blame toward my family as well because my mother took me out of school when i was in the 7th grade because she had younger kids and needed a baby sitter why she partyed all night so there for i cant really get a job because i dont have a ged are anything:( long story short it makes for a hard life....anyway i met my first husband at 15 got preg at 16 got married and then we got preg with our second child,life was always hard with him i could never please the man,he would always put me down make fun of me well then he started beating on me and he didnt care if the kids was around are not he would still do it:( well one day he stab me in the leg with a screw driver and i was bleeding pretty bad and i started cryin he told me to shut the f*** up that it didnt hurt so i did, well i finally got tired of bein done this way after 16years and i started looking for away out well i met this guy on myspace we talked 7mos before we ever met finally oneday i went and had lunch with him and we became friends and he offerd for me and my kids to stay at his house so i took him up on his offer well after stayin there for 2months we

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ended up messing with eachother,yes i was still married to the jerk, i ended up getting a divorce one year later i married my friend and that was the best thing i ever did i could not ask for a better husband and father to my kids, i know how i went about it was wrong and it was a sin but what i would like to know is will god forgive me????? it was getting to the point with my ex that i had to get out he was getting worse he was starting to hit the kids i could handle when he did it to me but not to my babys....please dont judge me im just asking if i will be forgivin by god for cheating thankyou.

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G.T.

answers from Modesto on

I'm assuming you prayed quite often for an escape from such a horrible marriage and God answered it by putting this new, wonderful husband into your life. God doesnt want a woman in an abusive relationship, husbands and wives are to treat each other as Kings and Queens. If you have asked him to forgive you for the way you went about it, thanked him for opening that door of escape for you, and don't subscribe to adultry forever more, the only sin you are now guilty of is not believing that the Lord HAS already forgiven you :)
Peace

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T.N.

answers from Albany on

Hi J. H, the God I know and love has ALREADY forgiven you.

I wish you and your children the best and hope you will continue to better yourself so as they may have a MUCH MUCH better childhood then you had.

Please feel free to PM me at anytime.

:)

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C.N.

answers from Baton Rouge on

If I were you, I would stop worrying about whether or not God will forgive you. Any god that would hold it against you for seeking comfort in a situation like you were in, isn't a god worthy of your worship anyway.
As for me, if I were ever in a position of feeling that I had to choose between my god and my kids, God would lose every time.

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L.V.

answers from Miami on

Of course GOD forgives you. He forgives everyone.

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J.S.

answers from Las Vegas on

All you need to know is "in him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace. Ephesians: 1:7. Confess you sin in prayer and your sin is forgotten.

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L.B.

answers from Stockton on

You were forgiven the minute you asked to be. God is amazing that way. You did what's best for you and your kids now keep it that way and live the life you were meant to live! All the best to you and your new life.

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M.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I think most of us would have done the same thing if in your shoes so don't feel bad. And I am sure that God forgives you.
As an aside-you should really work on getting that GED now that you can. Do it little by little if you need to but do it. I think it will go a LONG way in giving you self confidence and self esteem. And it will give you the tools you need to take care of yourself and your kids in case you would ever be in a bad situation again.

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D.M.

answers from Denver on

Yes yes yes... God forgives all sins. I am so happy to hear that you are in a better place and so are you kids. You deserve to be loved and treated well. Good for you for getting out... and remember every day how very special and loved you are by God. Blessings to you!

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L.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

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Leave it to Grandma T to say it perfectly once again.

If you turn to God for forgiveness, He will never turn His back on you. You are His child, and He wants nothing more than for you to come to Him.

Read the book The Shack if you can. It's fiction, but it's an amazing story about God's relationship with His children, and it's all about His amazing ability to Forgive.

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K.D.

answers from New York on

I second what Grandma T says! Of course God has forgiven you! You are not perfect, you were only trying to help yourself get out of a horrible situation and improve the lives of your children. That was a way out for you and while you ask for forgiveness for the adultery, you can also Thank God for blessing you with your new husband! Now you are forgiven so Stop worrying about that and enjoy your new life guilt free! and show your children what a real marriage is about ! Good for you. I am happy for you.

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

You are not the first person to have an affair, and you won't be the last. If this is bothering you so much (and after so much time), talking to your local religious leader might help you. Most have a way to do penance as a way to make up for a sin, and it's a good way to feel better and forgiven.
I think a good way to help (yourself and others) is to become involved with a womens shelter. They'll help you find ways to get your GED and by helping others who are in the situation you were in you will be growing in ways you never thought possible.

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J.S.

answers from Dallas on

If you ask God for forgiveness and have bettered your life for you and your kids then I truely believe that you will be forgiven. I don't know you but I'm proud of you for standing up and walking out and saving your kids and yourself from that monster of a man. Good luck with your new life and remember it is never to late to go back to school and better yourself, your worth it.

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J.S.

answers from Chicago on

I don't believe in God, so I have to ask you, "Do you forgive yourself?" Seems to me you feel guilty about this, which you shouldn't. You did what you had to do to get out of a terrible situation.

Maybe you should talk to your priest or pastor or minister to make peace with yourself.

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J.B.

answers from Atlanta on

Don't subscribe to the scary, judgmental God so many try to ram down everyone's throats. God simply wants you to be happy and healthy. Do you think God wanted you physically abused while your children watched or out on the streets, homeless or in some shelter? Humans existed and got together and had babies for thousands of years before we have the first historical account of a wedding, and I don't think God minded at all. Your first husband cheated on you, his kids and humanity in general when he stabbed you with a screwdriver. His feelings bear no consideration and I don't think God is concerned with what you did at all. You have to save yourself -and you did! THAT is what makes God happy!

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M.M.

answers from Washington DC on

Oh hon your story is so sad, but with a beautiful ending. I hope this man treats you as you deserve to be treated.

Now go to your community college adn ask for them to help you get some of your highschool credits. Take a couple classes. It will help your self esteem so much. Go easy first, it might even be fun.

God has forgiven you. You must forgive yourself and get to the point where you don't give a rat's a$$ if your ex lives or dies. Hate is a strong emotion, ambivalence is the opposite of love.

God wants you to live and be happy, in the marriage you could have been killed and you certainly weren't happy.

Congratulations for getting on with your life. It's going to be OK.

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J.P.

answers from Stockton on

God always forgives!! All you have to do is ask him for forgiveness...that is what the Bible says.

"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us or sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" I John 1:9

I am glad that you are out of the abusive situation. Ask for forgiveness, and accept it, and quit being so h*** o* yourself. We are all sinners, none of us is better than anyone else!!

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L.L.

answers from Topeka on

J.~Reading your post I couldn't imagine what you went through as a child & into your teens years now your adult life..Look at it like this God works in mysterious ways think of it as a blessing that you were able to get out of the abusuive home that your children was witnessing,you were being physical hurt by this man another man came in to save you take you out of your home with your kids & look after you & children then you fell in love got married & are now (hopefully)living a god life & your children are happy.You did this to save yourself & children.Look within your heart & forgive yourself before asking God to forgive you.

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

If a husband is abusive and you leave, I don't think it's a sin. You got your children out of an abusive household and that was a good thing.

IF you feel that divorce in your situation is a "sin" all you need to do is ask for forgiveness and all is right. God loves us and wants good things for us.

I would strongly to encourage you to take advantage of being in a good, stable environment now by getting that GED for yourself. It's never too late! Best to you!

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K.I.

answers from Oklahoma City on

What you did is not a sin, God works in differents ways ..He let you meet this great man......now in the other side you can start working on yourself get a ged and go to school there's is a lot of help out there for mommas who wants to get a carreer, do never let another man put a hand On you again, someone that hurts you doesn't love you, you need a counselor to work on your self-esteem ..good luck in your new life...( if you think this man isn't the right one either there is a women's shelter you can go with your kids in every city).

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C.B.

answers from Dallas on

God is an Awesome and Loving God! He is crazy about you! If you were the only person on earth- He would have still sent His son to die for YOU!!!! Yes, He will forgive you- He even goes so far as to promise that He won't even remember your sin! That's pretty amazing! You need to forgive yourself. You don't need to justify or make excuses- just realize that you made a mistake and forgive yourself. God loves you - He has already forgiven you. Forgive yourself and as hard as it is- forgive your ex- it will help you to heal and improve your relationship in your current marriage. You will feel so much lighter!
God Bless!
~C.

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M.H.

answers from Detroit on

If you ask for forgiveness then you will be forgiven.

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K.P.

answers from New York on

I'm glad you are safe and happy. If you are feeling overwhelmed or concerned about whether or not God will forgive you, I suggest you schedule and appointment with your pastor and talk.

If you are a Catholic, please go to Confession and reconcile.

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P.M.

answers from Tampa on

Truthfully... God shouldn't even be in your mind. "God" is who enabled you to get into the life you had in which you were mistreated, disrespected, beaten and bloodied.

I would be more thankful and thinking of the future rather than hoping and praying that a nebulous god would forgive the need and support you needed in another human being came from someone other than your spouse.

I hope you pressed charges to your ex... and followed thru. A man like that should not be loose to prey upon other women and children.

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