I Want to Work but Afraid of Being Too Stressed and Adding That to My Sons Life.

I work part time(3 days a week) and I think it's the best of both worlds. I'm lucky in that I have a low stress job that really is 3 days a week. I love being able to get out of the house and be something besides a mom a few days a week, but I also love taking classes with my son, taking him to and from camp and being available on 2 weekdays. We have two babysitters that my son is very connected to and I'm glad he has more people in his life that love him and expose him to the world. I think it has helped him be more adaptable to not always be with me.

I think if you would be happier doing some work, you should do it. Your son will be better off for it(although if you start work soon, you'll be right in the midst of separation anxiety which is no fun). I think I'm a better mom because I get a break from my son and I feel like I appreciate our time together because I'm not with him every day. I may stop working soon after I have my second child and I'm really kind of scared to give up this good work/family balance I've got. I'm afraid I'll go crazy being a SAHM, not because I love work or don't love my son, but because I think moderation is key.

I hope you can work out a good compromise. When you work, some things will slide, but that's OK. You can always try it for 3 months and see what you think. I would give it more than a few weeks because you'll need some time to really evaluate the situation.

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Hi L.,
This will be short as my husband is out with the 2 year old and I'm about to walk out the door to do a show.
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Hi L. - Every woman is different and you need to make a choice that works for you and your family. For some women, that means doing the SAHM thing full time yet for others it means balancing a career and a family. Both 'jobs' are equally difficult.

I feel like you and I sort of have a similar situation. If I wanted to, I could choose to not work and be a SAHM. I actually got to try out that role for the first 8 months of my son's life. While I enjoyed it, I was also so excited and refreshed to return to my career. I was worried about my child, but he truly is getting the best of both worlds - he gets to be with other children, learn new and different things every day, yet still have plenty of quality family time. He gets to see a strong, intelligent mommy who can balance a career, household, and family (and before anyone gets bent out of shape, NO, that's not a dig on sahms...I know your job is unbelievably difficult!). Additionally, my husband works long hours and is on-call nearly all the time, so like you I'm pretty much the primary for childcare, dinner, cooking, cleaning, you name it. I knew this ahead of time and I still signed up for it, so it's not like I was blindsided :)

Things I've done to make it work - we have a cleaning lady and a lawn service that cuts our grass. I also do dinners by design and make a whole month of meals so my cooking in the evening is next to nothing. Sometimes the toys don't get picked up in the evening, but we manage to survive! Sometimes I don't feel like cooking so we get pizza or delivery - oh well. We have realized that in order to keep everyone sane and happy (and I mean everyone - mom, dad, and the baby) we just needed to realize what our priorities were and go from there. Is our house as neat and clean and perfect as it was 'before kid'? Nope. But we wouldn't trade the organized chaos for anything!

Search your heart and have good conversations with your husband. Remember, as a woman and a mom you have needs that should be met and you deserve to be happy too, no matter if that means working at home or working outside of the home.

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