I am terribly worried that I will permanately damage my sweet little 15 month old twins if I go on a 1 week second honeymoon with my husband. My plan is to have their regular nanny during the day, and their grandmother, whom they love, at night a long with their other siblings. I planned to have many activities planned for them when I go, with people they love. Can anyone share with me what they think?
I just wanted to thank everyone,(in advance of the trip) for your supportive feedback. I honestly would not have planned to go had I not seen so many positive and encouraging comments from each of you. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I will be married 20 years this June. We are planning to go to Greece & Venice. I will let you know how things turned out.
Go, Go, Go! I left my daughter with the grandparents for a week when she was 20 months, and it was great. It was necessary time with my husband before daughter #2 came. And, my daughter bonded with her grandparents in a way that only a lot of time could do. She didn't seem to notice that we were gone until about the last day, when she really missed us.
I wish I could have that opportunity ! for a whole week !!
WOW ! you go girl ! enjoy yourself !
Do it now before they get any older!!!!
Go and have a GREAT TIME!
Don't worry your twins are going to be fine. The first time my husband and I left our daughter with family to go on a trip, she was 10mo old and still breastfeeding! I had to pump a week before to have a nice milk supply for her. I'm sure she missed us like we missed her, but she was in good hands with my mom (her grammy):) And it is important to dedicate some time to your marriage. Relax and have fun!
Hi L.,
I think your babies will have a fantastic time. It sounds like you have put thought into who will be watching them. Have a great time with your husband and enjoy just being a couple on a vacation!
C.
I left my twins for the first time when they were about 16 weeks old. My husband and I went away for a long weekend. It was awesome! I missed them terribly but my mom & dad loved taking care of them and I loved getting a full night's sleep for a couple of nights. You won't scar them. You will be more rested and more connected with your husband. That is a good thing!
I think it'll probably be difficult for them to have you gone so long, but I don't think that they will be permanently damaged. Actually, I'm about 100% certain they won't be permanently damaged;-) Sounds like you have a great set up for while you are gone...have lots of fun!
GO! Do it while you have the help of reliable people! I have an 11 year old boy and have never lived near family since his birth and my husband and I have been away together...once. That was to come to Ft Worth to look at houses before relocating here from Arkansas.
I would LOVE to go on a 2nd honeymoon and would definately go if we had the support system that you do! Your kiddos will not be damaged and they will be thrilled to see you when you get back. They won't even remember that you were gone!
Gooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! Have fun!
Look at it from this point of view. Do you remember when you were 15 months? I dont. I dont think most people do. I think that very young children are kinda like puppies, they have no sense of time. I'd be willing to bet that an hour after you return, they will have already forgotten that you were gone!!
Margaret:)
P.S. I'm jealous like the dickens of you. If someone wanted to take me on a trip, I'd go without lookin' back!!!
Where do I sign up!?!
My husband and I left this summer to go on a trip to Ireland and my daughter was 19 months old at the time. My mom came to stay with her. I was mortified at the thought of it, but we wanted to start trying for another baby soon and knew it was take the trip now or wait another several years. Well, I was thinking more along the lines of NYC or somewhere at least in the USA, but my hubby talked me into leaving the country. I was a disaster on the way to the airport, but I have to say that once we left, I was okay. We talked on the phone every night (despite the time difference) and she did perfectly fine. She LOVES her Grandma and I think it actually created an awesome bond between them. My mom lives in Florida, so they only get to visit about 4-5 times per year. Anyway, trust me when I say that NO permanent damage will be done by leaving them. We were gone for 9 days and my little one missed us, but she was back to normal within a day of our return (she actually clinged to Grandma when we first came home....broke my heart a little because she wouldn't come to me at first, but she warmed up really quickly). Do yourself a favor and go enjoy some time with your hubby. You won't regret it and the kids will probably fare much better than you! By the way, we came home with baby #2 in the oven, so mission accomplished! I'm really glad we went. :-)
I agree - You need to GO! My husband surprised me with a romatic getaway when our twins were 7 months old (they are almost three now and, seemingly, unscarred!) and I was TERRIFIED. It forced me out of my comfort zone in the HUGEST, most neurotic way ever. We all survived, though, and we've now taken several trips and everyone has made it. I think they need a break from us as much as we need a break, and we need to remember that we come back better, more patient and more tolerant parents. They are SO resilient - They will be just fine. Your caregiver may not do things exactly the way you would have done them, but the kids will definitely be fine. Make sure you do a Power of Attorney and all that jazz before you leave, but you should definitely go. Have fun!!!
Hi L.!! GO GO GO! I left my daughter for 8 days when she was 14 months old and I missed her badly, but she was with my mom and she did really well. You and your hubby need to get away when you can!! And the good thing about your twins, they have each other and their older brothers. They will know you are coming back and that you did not just leave them. I will say--when I got home after that trip, she looked at me for about 5 seconds before having any reaction, then just JUMPED into my arms! I don't regret leaving her and it was a great trip for me and my husband. Go have a great time!!! Good Luck!
