Miscarriage and D&C - Manning,IA

Updated on November 13, 2012
C.Z. asks from Manning, IA
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I had a Dr apt yesterday with an ultrasound. There was no heartbeat. I am more than lost right now but thats not the problem. I have a D&C monday and I dont know what to expect. I am scared, hurt, and feel like I am just running circles.

Tell me anything you can about the D&C, I am at a loss as to what even to ask.

ETA the ultrasound shows that I have carried for two weeks without a heartbeat. The doc and myself decided that a D&C would be safest at this point.

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A.M.

answers from Hartford on

I am so sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing about two years ago. I ended up with some bleeding and cramping from the D&C. Make sure to have some pain meds on hand and some pads.
The most difficult thing for me personally was mourning the loss of my child. Be kind to yourself right now and for the next serveral months, give yourself time.

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D.D.

answers from Denver on

I went to doctor and found no heartbeat with my 1st pregnancy. Then weeks later my body released it on its own. The hurt of loosing a baby was harder than the physical I went through.

I did find joy walk back into my life 6 short weeks later. He is now 14 yrs old and 6 ft tall. Mourning the loss of the baby is always there. My son tells me "mom if you would have had that baby, you wouldn't have me."

What would happen if you waited a little while to have DnC? Let the body do what it is naturally to do? I have heard of cases where the baby was there, but couldn't find a heart beat. Emotions are raw now, I am sorry you are going through this. ((hugs))

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C.V.

answers from Los Angeles on

I'm so sorry for your loss:( I had a D&C several years ago when I started to have a miscarriage. They first told me it would pass at home and to just wait it out. Well at home I was passing huge blood clots and the pain was unbearable.
So I went to the ER and they admitted me for a D&C. I was put under anesthesia, woke up and it was done, a couple hours later i was going home.
They saw 2 sacks but no heartbeat so it would've been twins, like you they told me the gestational age was 2 weeks behind. Definitely go with the D&C so you can heal faster physically and emotionally. Sending hugs your way.

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J.M.

answers from Philadelphia on

i'm so sorry!
i had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. my ex decided not to go because it was J. a check up and they decided to do an extra ultrasound J. for fun (i had one previously andf the heart was beating and the baby was healthy) ---no heartbeat. it wouldnt happen on its own so i had the d&c ..someone was stupid and told M. they dont knock you oyut and you can hear suction so as i was being rolled back i freaked out crying and they knocked M. out for it.
asked to be knocked out!

i'm sorry this happened to you. i got peace from mine when i had emmy and realized she wouldnt hav been norn had i not had the miscarriage

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K.H.

answers from Minneapolis on

I am so sorry for your loss,i went thru this procedure twice-its not painful or anything..they knock you out-clean out your uterus and then you recover-the hardest part about the procedure is coping with the greif n loss of your baby-but as I was told when I went thru it-this was probably for the best-the baby wasn't not well n this was a way to protect all.instead of everyone suffering in the long run.good luck-again im so sorry for your loss.

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☼.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hi dear,
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. The same thing happened to me. The D&C itself was very simple; they put you out and you wake a short time later (I had no 'tubes' as mentioned below). I felt no pain afterward. They advise you to wear a pad for a few days afterward as you will bleed. The hardest part for me was the loss itself (this was my first baby) and all the emotions involved. You still have all the pregnancy hormones coursing through you for some time and that adds to the emotional difficulty. Again, I'm sorry and wish you and your family peace during this really difficult time. Hugs to you.

I.X.

answers from Los Angeles on

I know how let down you are, i've been through this more than once. I am so very sorry. I took a look at your profile and looks like you are a working mom. The D&C really is your best option and I hear its really quite easy. Natural miscarriage can drag on for days and weeks. I will share my natural miscarriage experience just so you have reason to feel good about your choice. I passed naturally (twice with no medical intervention, and one time with medicine to start the bleeding process). Occasionally the gestational sac comes out in tact in which case your body will dilate to accommodate the passing. This happened to me and was it was fact quite painful and scary as for several minutes I did not know if everything was coming at once or if I was hemorrhaging to death. So since then I have to have a family member baby sit me while i miscarry and this last one drug on for days and days and there was no ah ha moment, when I knew it had mostly passed. D&C is quick and easy.

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D.P.

answers from Minneapolis on

I am so sorry for your loss but know that it was probably for the best like Kathy said. I had 2 miscarriages, one D&C and one passed naturally. I can honestly say go with the D&C. I feel like it was less traumatic for me and helped me move on sooner. It can take some time for a miscarriage to pass and I even had to go back in because it hadn't all passed after a couple weeks. It is very routine, in and out, and you will only be out for a day most likely. Your emotions are already running high and for me a D&C was the best route. Good luck! You will be absolutely fine!

A.S.

answers from Iowa City on

You usually have a choice between general anesthesia or "twilight" anesthesia. You are also usually given an antibiotic. I'm not going to go into detail because I think you don't want to hear about the actual procedure right now. Once you are under anesthesia you will not remember the actual procedure. After the procedure they usually keep you for an hour or two. Expect bleeding (take your own pads with you) and cramping. Make sure you have someone with you to drive you home. They will tell you to take it easy for a few days before you can return to normal activities.

I'm sorry for your loss.

J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

I am laughing at "twilight" anesthesia, sorry, that term hasn't been used since like 60s. I am laughing because I fear some doctor is still using it. It is local or general anesthesia. Get a general, I couldn't even handle being awake for knee surgery I can't even begin to imagine going through a D&C awake not that I have had one.

I am so sorry you are going through this.

V.K.

answers from Minneapolis on

I don't know anything about the procedure, I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry for your loss. If you ever need to talk, I'm here.

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L.F.

answers from Chicago on

So sorry for your loss!

I have had two miscarriages. For the first one, I had gone in for a routine ultrasound at 9 weeks to confirm the pregnancy. No heartbeat. I was heartbroken, but I wanted to miscarry naturally. I didn't pass the baby until about three days later. I had bad cramping, but nothing bad enough to require pain medication. It was quite messy, and I pretty much spent a whole night on the toilet.

For my second miscarriage, I again found out at the routine ultrasound that there was no heartbeat. This was at 10 weeks. I wanted to avoid the D&C again, so I just decided to wait for the baby to pass naturally. After a week went by with no signs of any bleeding or cramping, I decided to just have the D&C procedure. I was already heartbroken about losing the baby, and I was still feeling the pregnancy hormone surges (including morning sickness).

The D&C procedure was totally painless. I was put under, and when I woke up, it was all over. I had minimal pain and bleeding afterwards. The doctor also told me that there was basically no fetal sac left, and it had pretty much already deteriorated at the time of the D&C. It only took me a day or two to recover physically. Moving on emotionally was harder.

Please be kind to yourself. And if anyone offers to make you meals or take care of your other kids, take them up on it! So sorry again. It's so heartbreaking.

S.L.

answers from Kansas City on

I never had a miscarriage. I'm sorry for your loss. I did have a D&C after I had my 6th child and placenta was left in and I hemorrhaged. I have never had surgery except for tonsils as a child and didn't want to be put out so I ate before going and the doctor was not happy with me but did it with a shot of something and so I was fully awake but groggy. I talked to them and felt it all although I was numbed and it was like a vacuum and didn't hurt me at all. I could hdar it but it didn't bother me at all. I did have an issue trying to hit my nose though. :-) I was in the hospital overnight before the surgery due to bleeding so badly, etc. but went home the day of the D&C later in the day. I don't remember having to do anything at home other than normal delivery recovery. I think in your case you have a loss and are sad about that which is understandable but the procedure itself is not that bad. I went on to have 2 more children so I don't think it affects having more if you want to try again. Again, I'm so sorry for this loss.

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