Piggbacking on Thanksgiving Question - Wishing for Mom

We call it "Spirit Gone Walkabout" when that happens in my family. My grandmother's spirit was walkabout for 20 years before it finished doing whatever it was doing so her body could rest. That's sooooooo my grandmother. Iron willed, she wasn't done with SOMETHING, yet. Nope. Sorry. I'm not dying until I've finished my list. I'll leave my body here as a bookmark whilst I pop out and go see/do __________. Back in a tick.

Hugs Grom!!!

Same thing, except maybe more. To spend the holidays with my mom and let her enjoy Christmas with her brand new granddaughter, my niece, who she didn't get to meet in person. My mom died three weeks ago tomorrow. I'm your age too.

my mom just passed away this past july....and i miss her something terrible. she had bladder cancer and i had to go over to her house twice a week to help her with her bag and shower. i have always loved christmas and am having problems trying to get into the spirit and get my house decorated. i have always decorated my home for christmas by the first full weekend in november!! i miss her and want her back!!!

Me too! My mom died in '98. I'd love to give her another hug.

I knew my grandpa and would love to see him again.

My Dad's mom died when he was three and a half. I'd love to meet her and ask her about her life and why she married my grandpa. Its my understanding she was born in the Dakota territory. She came to California between 1890 and 1905 riding and walking beside or in a covered wagon. I'd love to see her and hug her and tell her how much I would have like to have met her. I hear she was a grand old lady. She died of cervical cancer before they had any idea of how to cure it.

I miss family.

Good luck to you and yours.

I'm so sorry for you

I would love for my SO to be able to spend the day with his parents. His mom passed away when he was 19 and his dad when he was 26.

hmmm a day with my pop pop. i lived with him until he died when i was 7. he was like a dad to M. and i miss him.

orrr i'd wish for M. and my mom to spend a day with her mom.

her mom died when she was 8 and i always have tons of questions about her and she cant really remember much of her mom other than hospital visits=(

S., your post brought tears to my eyes. Same thing with my MIL. (Except she can't sit up in a wheelchair.) Not many Thanksgivings ago, we had my grandma and her husband, my sister's FIL and before that, my dad. They were all either using walkers or on oxygen or in wheelchairs. Two of them lived in assisted living. But we were all together at my mom's house.

Today, all of them are deceased. My mom has so few people to join her for Thanksgiving. I'd love to have that back, if not for me, for my mom. It meant so much to her to serve these old folks.

I'm sorry you don't have your mom. I don't know how I'll get through it when it's my mom's time.

Thinking of you,
Dawn

Maybe give this a try....http://www.cbn.com/media/player/index.aspx?s=/mp4/LJO190v...

S.,
Just wanted to say I am so sorry. My husband's father died several years ago and he was in a very similar state. My husband was just 34 when he lost his father. The problem with Alzheimers is that you lose the person before you really lose the person. Does that make sense? It's so heartbreaking and lonely to sit next to the body of a person and want to talk about something - either something from the day or reminisce about something from the past - and the person is just not there. They can't talk to you, remember with you, laugh with you... it's a devastating disease. It is 100% OK to grieve the loss, though. So many people feel like they can't grieve when the person is still "here" but the truth is you probably lost your mom a long time ago. Spend the day with her while you can. Hold her hand. Just be with her and remember the good times you have had. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. <<<HUGS>>>

Awe me too! My Mom passed away 10yrs. I would LOVE to be able to spend one more day with her.
My SO's Dad is at the beginning stages of dementia and it has been really rough for him. I can't imagine what it will be like when he gets to the point where he doesn't remember anyone or anything.

Your post makes me grateful and makes me want to call my mom. Fortunately, we have our parents. So...I's wish for a day with my Granddaddy. It makes me sad to know that my kids will never know him. They won't know how he smelled like old spice, had a story for every occasion, a sense of adventure he shared with everyone and a deep contagious laugh!

When my Grandfather Inlaw was diagnosed with dementia and alzheimers I was hoping for a medication that would bring back the chemical imbalance. I discovered that the brain actually is no longer pink and fluffy brain shape. But it changes to a grey shade and is some what dried out in apperiance. This helped me so much. It reminded me of the situations where they show a smokers lung vs. a healthy lung.

Are you able to go visit her in the nursing home. Can you hug her or hold her hand/touch contact. If so do so. Her brain might not be able to register but her heart and soul can feel love.

My Grandfather inlaw thought another lady living in the nursing home was his wife...that did not go over so well with her. But he still thought he had a spouse and someone to love.

I would wish for great health and the ablity to maintain it better.

I would like a day with my mom and dad. Mom died in '94 and dad in '02. I was 6 months pregnant with my oldest son when dad passed, so neither got to meet my kids.

Same thing, only my M. is alive and not suffering from dementia... instead she is drinking her life away and has subsequently taken any "mother" I ever had, and any Grandmother my kids ever had, away. My dad died when I was 15, so I guess I would wish that he was still here, and that he got to meet my children since he was the "normal" one of my parents but I was too young to realize that :(