Pregnancy and Husband Reaction...

Updated on May 14, 2012
A.L. asks from Anna, OH
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Sort of JFF, just wondering how your Husbands/partners reacted when they found out about a new pregnancy? Did they do something nice for you or just kind of act like nothing changed?

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M.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

Well, my husband high-fived his buddies. I cried because the mere thought of giving birth makes me cry. We had been married 4 years so it shouldn't hae been such a shock. I guess I am very adverse to pain!

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K.L.

answers from Sacramento on

With our first, he was downstairs when I took the test. I called down "baaaabe!" And he yelled "shut the f*** up!" But in an excited way hahaha!!
With #2, I was bawling my eyes out bc my first was 9 months old, and the mini pill had failed... I called him at work, crying hysterically. He thought my mom died! Then he just said "ok." Like, no biggie...
With #3, which I'm growing right now, he went white as a ghost and said "well hell, I need a raise." Hahahaha!!!

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S.S.

answers from Dallas on

When I figured I was pregnant, I was the nervous one (hubby already has 2 and this was going to be my 1st). I woke up at around 4 A.m. and asked if he wanted me to take the test since I had to pee anyway. He groaned "Yeah go ahead". So I did but I was too nervous to wait for the results so I made him stumble into the bathroom to read it and he came back to bed saying "It says yes". I was speechless and he went back to sleep. It didn't hit him until later that day and he was happy.

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D.P.

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OK I can hear all the judgements and condemnation now, yes I admit I am a sinner, BUT, when hubby and I found out about baby #1 we werent married or even living together(officially), but I dont think we spent more than a night a week without each other. It was my 30th bday when we got official news and we had planned to do something special for my bday, we ended up going out of town, on the way home he said with a smile on his face, we need to start looking for a place together! That told me all I needed to know! When we fiound out about baby #2 I had our boy walk in the house wearing a shirt that said something like "Coming Spring 2003 BIG Brother" I got pampered!

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J.B.

answers from Houston on

Well with our first, we had been married six weeks when we found out we were pregnant, it was a shocker for sure bc that was not in the plans at that exact moment. My husband just had a stunned look on his face and the grabbed a sales catalog of the materials he sold at the time and poured over it for like two hours muttering 'I gotta sell more...I gotta sell more..." I was an emotional wreck so this was not the response I was looking for!! But he did start selling more and I got to stay home, so in the end I guess it was a great response :) With number two, we planned him, he was happy, don't exactly remember what he did though. With number three we were once again in shock only bc baby two was only 14 months old when I found out I was pregs with him. But actually we were very happy bc it was a surprise and we were debating on the third a little and were happy that he just snuck up on us and ended the debating :) My hubby hasn't really done any big thing whenever we have found out we were having a child but he works his butt off and is a great dad, so that is enough :)

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☆.A.

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I had 2 (known) miscarriages before I had our son.
So.......the first pregnancy he reacted with unbridled enthusiasm & excitement, with the second, a bit more controlled, and the last (successful) pregnancy, we were a little more subdued--but thrilled, really--just guarded optimism, I suppose.
I guess that answer is a little different--but we had a different perspective by the time our son was born and he has been the greatest blessing we could have ever imagined--truly!

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K.L.

answers from Savannah on

The initial reaction was "What?" "Huh?" "Are you sure?" Which turned into enthusiasm and slight overprotectiveness.

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G.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

It depends on the circumstances. If they have already had children and are open to having more they would be excited I think.

If they have never been a father and are surprised by the information I think they would be in shock and forgiven any reaction that is not what one expects. They have not played being a mommy to a doll for their entire life looking forward to holding their children like most little girls do from an early age.

If they are not wanting children then they would react differently too.

So it really depends on the person and what their desires and dreams are pertaining to children. And sometimes it comes down to having children with that particular woman.

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S.A.

answers from Chicago on

#1 was planned, and we got it on the first try so he was happy and excited.

#2 came a month or two earlier than we thought, but he was happy again.

#3 was a surprise, and he was not so happy. He didn't even want to talk about it for the first few weeks. After it sunk in, he came around and was excited. By the end, he was more excited than he'd been for the others.

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B.G.

answers from New York on

I agree.. It is true under the circumstances..
everyone reacts different. Some hubbys are in such shock.
I was the one in shock when i found out i was pregnant more than my hubby. A card always goes a long way for me. Not material things.
Stay positive..

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B..

answers from Dallas on

He was happy and made me take 4 pregnancy tests. We had JUST decided 3 1/2 weeks earlier we would start trying. We both couldn't believe I could get a positive so soon. It was a bit shocking.

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H.M.

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With my first well, we had been trying for 4 years. Had 3 miscarriages at that point. I felt so ill that I thought I had mono. We went to my doctor, he always goes with me. They did a pregnancy test just incase and we both kinda whatevered that.... when my doc came in and told us the happy news he started to cry as hard as I did. I think we did for a few hours straight.

With my second I went in for a check up at my OB/GYN, he was with as always, I didn't like my new birth control pill. I found it's side effect bad so I was going to ask for a new. Well he was doing his exam and got all funny. Said he'd be right back and pulled in the ultrasound machine. He did a scan over my abdomen and there was a baby. Not a little baby a 16 week old that he could tell us right off the bat was a girl. My husband literally was so shocked he stumbled and was white as a ghost for pry 10 mins.

With my third we'd had 3 more miscarriages trying. So when I got the positive Friday night, not even a cycle after the last miscarriage, we were very both nervous. We went out on our date as we always did on Friday night but it was very quiet and surreal. We didn't really get excited till pry our 3rd ultrasound that showed our babies heartbeat.

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I.G.

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Our DD wasn't planned but DH was very supportive, more than I had though. He was actually more excited about it than I was for the first couple of weeks. But no, other than being supportive nothing special...

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L.G.

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With #1 I had to take an overnight trip for work and had gotten up early to finish packing - we'd been trying for only 2 months and had been very dissapointed when it didn't happen the 1st month, so I'd put off taking the test a few days. Decided to bite the bullet and take the test so I'd know if I needed to pack any "feminine products" for this trip... well hubby was asleep, I ran in and bounced on the bed saying "I'm pregnant" - he opened 1 eye, said, "ok" and put the pillow over his head. LOL he's not a morning person. With #2, we were both shocked, since I'd been struggling with ovarian cysts for a few months and hadn't had a reliable cycle for months - but then we miscarried at 8 weeks. #3 we were both pretty subdued, until the first ultrasound showed her heartbeat and the doctor said it was very unlikely we'd miscarry. Now, once the babies came, he was much more excited - he says it just doesn't feel real to him until the baby is born. I wouldn't say he ever did anything for me when we found out we were pregnant, but he did cry when we lost #2 and took me to get some Reese's PB Cups and Mt Dew to cheer me up... oh and he tried to not make "stinky" food much while I dealt with morning sickness from weeks 7 thru 25 with both pregnancies. which i thought was pretty special considering his fondness for garlic.

V.W.

answers from Minneapolis on

I was 18 when I found out that I was pregnant, my fiance was 30 (Except he was "just" my boyfriend back then). We had just celebrated our one year anniversary. He was silent for a few minutes and then pulled me into his lap, kissed my forehead, told me that I was going to be a great mom, and promised that he was going to try to be a a good dad. He was wonderful all throughout my pregnancy and is a GREAT dad!

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