Trying for #2, but Getting #1 Was So Hard...

I agree you should at least consult with a fertility specialist (Reproductive Endocrinologist). There are many different causes for difficulty conceiving, including scarring, many of which can be treated without fertility drugs but you won't know what issues you have without testing. Infertility testing is usually covered by insurance, although many treatments after diagnosis are not. Talk to your OB/GYN and see what tests they can run themselves. After that you can request a referral to an RE.

Good luck!

Hi S.,
I'm a 36 y.o. with two children from a previous marriage and I am also trying to conceive without fertilty treatments. I had a tubal reversal in April, conceived on my third cycle, miscarried at 8 weeks,and have now had four more cyles hoping to finally be on track and conceive again. It is a frustrating process. Can I ask, have you done everything possible that you can think of to be in the best of health? No smoking, no drinking alcohol, reducing your caffeine intake,lots of water, etc.,etc. The only time I have tried to be healthy was when I was trying to conceive,and even that was questionable. But I now have a way to be in the best of health without following a strict diet and trying to consume the recommended 9-13 servings of fresh raw fruits and vegetables which we need for optimum health. It's with JuicePlus+; my whole family takes it,and I truly believe it will help me to conceive and have a healthy, uneventful pregnancy especially at the age of 36. You can visit my website at www.juiceplus.com/+dl40646 and see if you think it might be for you. Good luck and God Bless.

If you have endometriosis (scar tissue), it is possible that you have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). many women with PCOS struggle with infertility.

i suggest going to an endocrinologist, or at least talking with your doctor about hormone tests / other test and PCOS (no need to have cystic ovaries to be diagnosed with PCOS.)

PCOS can also include insulin resistence (including type 2 diabetes) irregular menstrual cycles, low milk supply during lactation, hyperandrogenism (signs of too much testosterone, such as hirsuitism (hair in "masculine" places or quantitites), male pattern baldness or thinning hair, irregular menstrual cycles, midsection obesity (but not necessarily elsewhere on the body), skin tags, and a host of other signs and symptoms - only a couple of which are required for a PCOS diagnosis.

If any of this rings a bell, then definitely consult with your doctor.

treatment with metformin during pregnancy has been shown to decrease the risk of miscarriage significantly for women with PCOS, and could help with conception as well. If hyperandrogenism is an issue, than the hormone imbalances would most likely need to be addressed.

A naturopathic physician is another option, as there are many potent herbs for endocrine disorders.

Hi S.,

Your story sounded somewhat like mine. I was 33 when I conceived my first daughter and we had tried for 3 years. I went to a fertility doctor, had minor exploratory surgery to "clean me out" and got preggers 3 months later on fertility drugs; lost that baby at 6 weeks, then got preggers on fertility drugs/turkey baster 9 months later and had a healthy baby girl. When it was time to try for #2, I was scared I would have to go through that emotional rollercoaster all over again. But we decided to forgo the drugs this time and see if my body would remember what it was like to be preggers. I was so busy with baby #1 that I actually conceived on my own for the first time ever but lost it at 8 weeks. Then I got preggers again on my own and had baby girl #2. I was just thrilled I didn't have to do fertility drugs again. Now we are talking about baby #3 (our last and final one). I'm 38 with a 4 yo and 18 mo and hubby wants to go for #3. I agree with your mom, lots of bedroom time no matter how tired you are and the ovulation kits really helped me alot. I found that because my first daughter kept me so busy I didn't have time to worry about conceiving and then it happened on its own with #2. I know when we were trying for #1 I became so obsessed with getting pregnant - its all I thought about. We believe the stress may have caused me NOT to conceive. I wish you all the luck in the world conceiving #2. Just have fun and let nature takes its course.

M.

As a surrogate mother I have heard so many stories like yours. The first thing you shoudl do is get connected with a fertility clinic and start to chart. Some people do the temps in the morning, and ither clever ways. You can also get the clearblue ovulation monitor (you could get it on ebay real cheap and I have the (hidded) instruction on how you can erase the memory of the first user). I would also get connected with other women who are having infertility issues like yourself. This way you have even more support and are given clever ideas on how to increase your chances of having a baby. Message me if you need any information.

M.

I suggest charting your cycles. There is a free website called www.fertilityfriend.com. It tells you everything you need to know on how to do it in a free charting course. Once you know when you ovulate each month you can pin point the best days you would need "bedroom time" in order to get pg. Most doctors will ask you to chart your cycles anyway before they put you on most meds. I have been trying to conceive #2 for 4 months now and I love using Fertility Friend so much. Is so simple and easy to use. If you have any questions feel free to e-mail me. :) Good Luck.

Hi, first of all, I wish you the best of luck...I can't say that I have knowledge of your situation with the scar tissue, but I can give you some tips for conceiving. First of all, are you aware of exactly when you are ovulating? As I understand it, it is approx. 2 weeks after your period actually starts. So, lots of sex in a 2-3 day window. And, after...place a pillow under your hips and don't urinate or wash up for about 30 minutes. It really is a timing issue; women have a very limited window each month, and other issues, such as scar tissue, etc. cause additional roadblocks. This is how I had my second child; I looked up as much I could about the timing and methods. Again, I wish you good luck!

were you told what caused the scar tissue? i have endometriosis, is that what you have? if so, there are treatments that can greatly increase your fertility. talk to your gyno